Well-intentioned insecure leaders do great harm. I know I have in the past because of me rooting my self-worth in the love of man and my feelings instead of the grace of the Gospel. The problem is when trying to speak into the well-intentioned insecure leader’s life, you usually get constant bewildered looks or quick apologies with little change or repentance.
I think this TS Eliot quote explains what’s going on in the pathology of such leaders, at least in my own such insecure moments:
“Half the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don’t mean to do harm– but the harm does not interest them. Or they do not see it, or they justify it because they are absorbed in the endless struggle to think well of themselves.”
T. S. Eliot, The Cocktail Party, (1974), p. 111