How Well-Intentioned Insecure Leaders Do Harm

Well-intentioned insecure leaders do great harm. I know I have in the past because of me rooting my self-worth in the love of man and my feelings instead of the grace of the Gospel. The problem is when trying to speak into the well-intentioned insecure leader’s life, you usually get constant bewildered looks or quick apologies with little change or repentance. I think this TS Eliot quote explains what’s going […]

 

The Destructive Effects of Insecurity

Sam Storms posted on The Gospel Coalition website ten things he wished he’d known earlier in his 40 years of pastoral ministry. I encourage you to check out all ten, but wanted to feature #10 here because it’s such good advice for not just pastors, but any leader of consequence, including parents! I’ve found it true in my life and in the lives of many a leader that’s struggled with […]

 

Loose Hats and a Sinful Heart

Here are a few things I’ve learned as of Day 3 on my Lenten hairless journey: My wife and daughter are pretty much past the “surprised by the intruder in the house” effect of my unhairdo. My reflection is becoming less startling to me. I can pull shirts and sweaters on and off and not worry about messing up my hair. My hats are suddenly very loose. It is so […]

 

Giving Up Hair For Lent

I shaved my head for Lent yesterday. Much like many evangelicals have rediscovered and embraced Advent of a season of preparation for Christmas, Lent is a season of preparation and reflection on the Passion and coming of Easter. More (or less) on my hair in a minute. Last year at this time, I was on staff at a Southern Baptist church. As plans for a big Easter Sunday consumed the […]

 

Resolutions and Leaving Fear Behind: One Year Later

Exactly one year ago, I preached a sermon at my church entitled “Leaving Fear Behind.” It was a messy sermon in both how I preached and what was shared back to me afterwards. You see, I asked members to write down or text me their greatest fear; what they wanted God’s help to leave behind for the new year. Mine was the I wouldn’t lose weight over the course of […]

 

The best book (I wrote) for Christian teens wanting to date (so far)

I wrote a book for Christian teens back in 2009 called B4UD8 (Before You Date) along with my wife Hayley. Hayley was known more infamously for co-writing a 2003 release Dateable, but few know that we never speak on Dateable and that B4UD8 was a game changer on how we began to change the way we talked about guys, girls, and relationships. We wish we could say that B4UD8 was as commercially successful as its predecessor (Dateable outsells it 8:1,) […]

 

Why I left D6 fuming mad

UPDATE: I wrote this post 18 months ago (September 2013.) And the Hulk-like rage is still surging through my veins but with fruit to show for it. Make sure to check out the link at the end of the post! *** It’s been a little over a week since the D6 Conference in Louisville and me driving away fuming mad. Here are three things that have stuck with me since […]

 

House Fire

You can’t save someone from a burning building if they don’t think it’s on fire. Problem is, if you spend too much time trying to convince them from the inside of the building, you’re likely to lose your strength to smoke inhalation. Make your best efforts, then get yourself outside. And if you love the people on the inside, grab a bullhorn and a hose.

 

Reviews can make an author's day

Even though we’ve published over 40 books now, we’ve only had three released as audio books and all three were books that Hayley and I co-authored. The first was “Over It” and we had the option of being the narrators but we passed due to scheduling conflicts. When I heard the recording, I grimaced because they only used one narrator because chunks of the book are written by me in […]

 

The top reasons junior or princess leave the church

The top reasons junior or princess leave the church, in reverse order: 5. They hear sermons that are either self-help driven (what you get out of it,) church/money-driven (building campaigns, volunteers/workers needed,) or bible trivia-driven (head knowledge) instead of gospel-driven (heart knowledge.) 4. They don’t WANT to belong to a country club and, conversely, they don’t NEED to belong to a night club or comedy club. 3. Church is seen as […]

 

When your wounds itch

“Medicating to feel complete just treats the symptoms rather than the cause. Whether you are looking for the one person or the one drug to stop the pain, you are ultimately looking for a numbing agent rather than a healing one. But there is an answer to all of this wound stuff and that is in the one place you’ve probably looked at but never fully considered to treat your wounds, […]

 

The New Narcotic

“The National Survey on Drug Use and Health estimated that in 2008 there were 1.9 million cocaine users. According to the Central Intelligence Agency, there are an estimated 2 million heroin users in the United States, with some 600,000 to 800,000 considered hardcore addicts. Compare these numbers to the 40 million regular users of online pornography in America. Neurological research has revealed that the effect of internet pornography on the human brain is just as potent—if […]

 

The things students and youth need from their church

Here are the things kids and students need from their church (in order of importance:) 1. An emphasis on discipling parents to know how to disciple their kids.** 2. Paid staff and volunteers emphasizing one-on-one time with students over group activities. 3. Stop using bible stories as moral lessons for behavior modification. 4. Elevation of the quiet, awkward, and outcast. 5. Less mountain-top experiences (camps, conferences) and more living room […]

 

Go see this movie this weekend

My wife Hayley and I need your help with something. Do you like movies? Do you like music? Do you like great stories? Then I need you to take time and spread the word about a fantastic movie with a great story AND great music that releases this coming Friday, Oct. 4th. The movie is Grace Unplugged and even though it’s not out yet, I’ve seen the movie four times […]

 

You aren't bad

“Letting your sin designate you “bad” is a misunderstanding of your sin nature. You don’t sin because you became bad but because you were born a sinner; it’s your nature, so it comes as no surprise to God when you fail. But it comes as great joy when you agree with Him and repent from your sin.” Own It – Leaving Behind a Borrowed Faith – pgs. 95-96 http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1433682028/

 

Pleasing people (including yourself) is not owning your faith

  “When you want the approval of the world, you reject the approval of God. When man’s thoughts on you matter more than the One who can save you, your love exposes your worldliness. In Galatians 1:10 the author asks, “Am I now trying to win the favor of people, or God? Or am I striving to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not […]

 

Pastors, we are not anchormen

Pastors, we are not anchormen; pretty faces with voices full of gravitas reading a gospel teleprompter full of pay per view wisdom from another’s scholarship. No, we are to be eyewitness reporters, delivering credible accounts of the Good News as we’ve experienced it, as His Spirit has revealed it. To us. Through His Word. Not from someone else’s sermon notes and fruit of their study as our primary source. Hayley […]

 

Prophets, Priests, and Kings

Prophets, Priests, and Kings. If you’re called to leadership, you’re naturally tuned to one or more of these roles. But your gifting can turn toward serving self instead of God even in a public position of ministry. God delivers revival to His church through the UPS drivers that are the prophets. If you’re a prophet, what you speak must be grounded in wisdom, the Word, and recognition that every person […]

 

New ESV Edition of the God Guy Bible is Coming!

Excited to have the ESV version of the God Guy Bible coming out this coming February! http://www.crossway.org/bibles/god-guy-bible-none-hccase/

 

Men, do not make your wife your first priority

Men, do not make your wife your first priority. Love your wife as Christ loved the church. Christ’s first priority was glorifying the Father. Christ loving the church meant sacrificial love. It was sacrificial to say hard things that were for the church’s good. Christ loves the church by encouragement and admonishment, by watering and pruning. “Happy wife, happy life” is not biblical because Christ’s priorities concerning the church never […]