Latest posts from Michael DiMarco

 

 

How Well-Intentioned Insecure Leaders Do Harm

Well-intentioned insecure leaders do great harm. I know I have in the past because of me rooting my self-worth in the love of man and my feelings instead of the grace of the Gospel. The problem is when trying to speak into the well-intentioned insecure leader’s life, you usually get constant bewildered looks or quick apologies with little change or repentance. I think this TS Eliot quote explains what’s going […]

 

The Destructive Effects of Insecurity

Sam Storms posted on The Gospel Coalition website ten things he wished he’d known earlier in his 40 years of pastoral ministry. I encourage you to check out all ten, but wanted to feature #10 here because it’s such good advice for not just pastors, but any leader of consequence, including parents! I’ve found it true in my life and in the lives of many a leader that’s struggled with […]

 

Loose Hats and a Sinful Heart

Here are a few things I’ve learned as of Day 3 on my Lenten hairless journey: My wife and daughter are pretty much past the “surprised by the intruder in the house” effect of my unhairdo. My reflection is becoming less startling to me. I can pull shirts and sweaters on and off and not worry about messing up my hair. My hats are suddenly very loose. It is so […]

 

Giving Up Hair For Lent

I shaved my head for Lent yesterday. Much like many evangelicals have rediscovered and embraced Advent of a season of preparation for Christmas, Lent is a season of preparation and reflection on the Passion and coming of Easter. More (or less) on my hair in a minute. Last year at this time, I was on staff at a Southern Baptist church. As plans for a big Easter Sunday consumed the […]

 

Resolutions and Leaving Fear Behind: One Year Later

Exactly one year ago, I preached a sermon at my church entitled “Leaving Fear Behind.” It was a messy sermon in both how I preached and what was shared back to me afterwards. You see, I asked members to write down or text me their greatest fear; what they wanted God’s help to leave behind for the new year. Mine was the I wouldn’t lose weight over the course of […]

 

The best book (I wrote) for Christian teens wanting to date (so far)

I wrote a book for Christian teens back in 2009 called B4UD8 (Before You Date) along with my wife Hayley. Hayley was known more infamously for co-writing a 2003 release Dateable, but few know that we never speak on Dateable and that B4UD8 was a game changer on how we began to change the way we talked about guys, girls, and relationships. We wish we could say that B4UD8 was as commercially successful as its predecessor (Dateable outsells it 8:1,) […]

 

Why I left D6 fuming mad

It’s been a little over a week since the D6 Conference in Louisville and me driving away fuming mad. Here are three things that have stuck with me since the weekend (and why I eventually left enraged:) 1. I’m not alone. Thinking that churches need to rethink their approach to kids and student ministry is one thing. Talking about it to pastors and churches is another; it gets pretty lonely […]

 

House Fire

You can’t save someone from a burning building if they don’t think it’s on fire. Problem is, if you spend too much time trying to convince them from the inside of the building, you’re likely to lose your strength to smoke inhalation. Make your best efforts, then get yourself outside. And if you love the people on the inside, grab a bullhorn and a hose.

 

Reviews can make an author's day

Even though we’ve published over 40 books now, we’ve only had three released as audio books and all three were books that Hayley and I co-authored. The first was “Over It” and we had the option of being the narrators but we passed due to scheduling conflicts. When I heard the recording, I grimaced because they only used one narrator because chunks of the book are written by me in […]

 

The top reasons junior or princess leave the church

The top reasons junior or princess leave the church, in reverse order: 5. They hear sermons that are either self-help driven (what you get out of it,) church/money-driven (building campaigns, volunteers/workers needed,) or bible trivia-driven (head knowledge) instead of gospel-driven (heart knowledge.) 4. They don’t WANT to belong to a country club and, conversely, they don’t NEED to belong to a night club or comedy club. 3. Church is seen as […]